Sleepovers are a cherished part of childhood—an opportunity for children to bond with friends, and enjoy the freedom of staying up far too late! For parents, sleepovers are a big moment, as the fun also comes with the responsibility of ensuring everyone is safe and looked after. With stories of peer-on-peer abuse in the media, it’s natural for parents to have concerns. So let’s look at how you can make for an enjoyable and safe sleepover.
Most parents want to protect their children, ensuring they thrive in safe environments. For many families, this extends beyond their homes and into the various clubs and church communities where their children participate. Whilst these places may offer growth, friendship, or spiritual development, parents need to be aware that safeguarding ...
Joel Toombs suggests ways in which you can boost your conversation in 2024
Do you know what safeguarding approach your church takes?
Do conversations with your kids come easily?
What is the toughest part of Christmas for you?
What was your experience of Santa growing up?
Have you had to make adjustments to your Christmas routine?
Do you know your love language?
Do you find Christmas is a good time to share faith?
How many gifts do you typically buy?
Have tattos been an issue in your home?
Have you lost the sense of wonder of Christmas?
Was ‘advent’ celebrated in your home growing up?
Is selfishness the root of issues in your family?
What kind of discipline methods do you use?
Have you had to field unwanted personal attacks?
When did you first become aware of ADHD?
What is the maximum you have ever worked in a week?
Do you prefer working from home?
Was ‘leaving for uni’ your biggest transition?
Your worst mistake as a parent?
Where do you get your parental wisdom from?
How close has your parenting been to what you expected?
Joel Toombs shares some mentoring approaches that will take time with your children to a new level
Do you recall ever reading Leviticus all the way through?
Which transitions do you recall most clearly?
Which Bible passage do you find most relevant to your family?
What verses would you select?
Were you anxious as you began a new school year?
Was your childhood good, bad or ‘so-so’?
Do you recall your first Saturday job?
Do you recall picking up ideas from adults by over hearing them chat?
How clear were you about where you wanted to head when you were in your late teens?
Where and when did you come to faith?
Have you had an enjoable holiday camping with kids?
Were you a reader when you were yonger?
Do you recall holidays from your childhood?
Are the teens in your orbit enjoying life?
Are you good at learning poems?
How clear was your pathway?
How prevalent are ‘county lines’ where you live?
How tidy is your home?
Do you recall when you learned to pray?
Did you get compared with anyone when you were growinng up
Do your children access porn and how would you know?
Would you have a robot as a baby sitter?
How well do you love yourself?
Do you recall your first exposure to pornography?
What’s the best part of being a parent?
What TV programmes seem to affect your kids?
Did magical themes interest you in your youth?
What did you cringe at growing up?
Have you ever completely misheard a lyric?
Forming faith rituals
Ephesians 6:1-4 is Paul’s household code, or top tips for raising a good Christian family. But how relevant is it to your family in 2023?
How easy was it for you to grasp the Holy Spirit’s coming?
What would you do if your child decided not to follow Jesus?
How would advise a family where divorce has become necessary?
Was laughter a key part of your upbrining?
At what age would you allow your child to access YouTube?
Which social media platforms are you on?
What kind of conversations do you find tricky?
Which is your favourite?
How many blended families did you know?
When were you first aware of eco issues?
What events have challenged your kids?
Have you ever stopped a film because of what it was portraying?
Your favourite Easter movie?
Are you tempted to sanitise the death of Jesus for younger ears?
Who do you know with dyslexia?
When did you first become aware of autism?
Who’s the best parent you know?
Do you know couples who have different views on faith?
When did you last play outside with your children?
Have you ever spotted signs of anxiety in your child?
Do you believe your child can lead?
Jo Rowe looks at a phenomenon recognised by advertisers and begins a new approach with her eight-year-old son.
Have you assumed the Bible had just one approach to punishment?
What approaches worked best in your home?
Have you ever broken up a fight?
What do you believe about the Second Coming?
What’s your top tip for building resilience?
How did you learn to pray?
Do you recall a particular TV programme being banned?
What would you sacrifice for your family?
What is your first reaction when someone tells you something they didn’t expect?
Forming faith rituals
Are you the kind of person to go on a diet?
Have your irritations increased or decreased over time?
Can you see history repeating itself in your family?
How easy is your church worship experience?
Did you ever win a prize at church?
Who was your ‘hero’ growing up?
How good do you rate your start in the Christian faith?
What are your top tips?
As people who know grace why do we screw ourselves up so much?
There are believed to be 90,000 au pairs in the UK
Do you find keeping children busy a challenge?
Have you ever received coaching?
Would you say you were an easy teenage to parent?
What’s your favourite part of the festivities?
Andy Peck looks at the heartbreak of children drifting away from church and faith and suggests some things to remember
Would you be able to spot the signs?
Ali Hull talks to two Christian foster carers about their very different experiences of fostering
Would you want to appear on the show?
Do you recall any regular chores you had to do?
Are you surprised by these statistics?
Lindsay Wright was lost in motherhood before rediscovering who she was
Do you have any ‘evangelists’ in your family?
Who sets the tone for the culture in your family?
Did you ever play sport on Sunday?
How would you support your child’s faith alongside their sport?
Do you do anything special at Halloween?
Andy Peck found a local church which solved a tricky dilemma
How often do you pray with your children?
Do you see yourself as a leader?
Could your family find a time to read the Bible together?
How do you know when your children are lying?
When did you first own a mobile phone?
Andy Peck believes there are some conversation approaches that can improve your chats with young people
How much do you know about what your children watch?
How many apps on your phone?
What pushes your buttons?
How much do you remember about pocket money in your youth?
How good is your understanding of monarchy?
Are there things that typically press your buttons?
Are you a bit jealous of your youthworker’s connection with your child?
How well do you speak ‘teenager’…?
What might be possible if you began to dream?
Are you happy to receive good advice, whatever the source?
Jenni Whymark is thrilled to see England Women’s football thriving and asks whether we can learn a thing or two in the church
Do you secretly dread it when your children break up for summer?
Could your church supoort this nationwide work?
Where do you draw the line?
Longer, sunnier, days are here! The opportunity to take our children’s or youth group out for the day or just for a couple of hours on a club night has arrived! Perhaps to the beach or the countryside, maybe to a park or to a children’s farm, there are lots of places that we can take our children and young people to, including those with additional needs.
What would you say to someone about to head for uni?
What do your children find funny?
Wouldn’t it be great if anyone at church just ‘got on’! But we all know it’s not that simple
Your child is excited about an option, but darn it, it’s on at the same time as church!
Have you ever had a sinking feeling when you see who your children are hanging out with?
Are we realistically expecting our teens to stand out as Christians in the classroom?
Sleep deprived and feeling just slightly desparate?!
Your children may be addicted to digital screens, but Dawn Savidge believes it’s time they started to live a little!
It’s a joy having grandparents on hand to help out. But what happens when parenting styles clash with yours?
Can you remember how you learnt about sex? Was it a VHS describing what happens using euphemistic fruit images? Was it whispers in the playground? Was it graphic content seen online?
This year, results day has been a little more difficult than normal - with young people away from school for the lockdown and many unexpected exam grades (both good and bad) ending up on certificates. Here, career advisor Frank Hutton settles our youth’s anxieties, offering advice on what to do in both positive and negative situations.
There’s been a lot of difficult subjects to tackle with our children and young people in recent months. Annie Wilmot, a funeral pastor, author and mum-of-two, revealed how we can talk to our children about the tough stuff.
Parenting for Faith’s Rachel Turner, author of a new book from BRF entitled Parenting as a Church Leader, shares some encouragement.
Up and down the country and across the world, life has suddenly shifted gear for all of us. Families are thrown into the unknown situation of being together every day, with no clubs, activities or outings to break up the days and weeks. And not only do parents and carers now need to be the warm, loving and emotionally available adults that their children need, but we also need to act as pastors at a time when youth and children’s work is halted in most churches.
Coronavirus has resulted in schools closing and many people going into self-isolation. Ruth Jackson spoke to Tim Alford, national director of Limitless (the youth ministry of Elim Pentecostal Church) whose family is currently in self-isolation due to his wife, Jen, displaying symptoms of the Coronavirus. To hear more from Tim on how to support young people and reach out into our communities at this difficult time, check out our social media sites @ycwmag
New research by Childwise found that more than half of children say they sleep with their mobile phone beside their bed, with most young people now having their own phone by the age of seven. The annual report into children’s use of media also found that seven to 16-year-olds spend an average of three hours and 20 minutes per day on their mobiles.
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Annie Willmot shares some advice and encouragement for anyone who feels like they’re blagging their way through parenting
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Kay Morgan-Gurr explores spiritual development in young people with additional needs
Annie Wilmott asks, who has your back when your toddler poos through their clothes? The answer, she discovered, was her community. And that has a lot to teach us about being a family-friendly church.
Now, think of your family of unique individuals creating a unique collection of humans that is different from any other on earth, either now or that has ever been. The funny thing is, we generally see our own families as normal. The quirks and strange words are the only thing ...
The paradox of being up since 5am but still arriving late to church can baffle parents and those who are supporting them. Here’s how to help kids of small children feel genuinely supported in church.
There is a growing body of research to support the importance of a child’s development from conception to the age of 2 (the first 1,001 days). But what does this mean for those running groups for these young children?
Talking about sex is something we often shy away from, but sex therapist Emma Waring has dedicated her life to the topic. She spoke to deputy editor Emily Howarth about how couples can maintain sexual intimacy after having children
12-year-old Jonathan Bryan was labelled with profound and multiple learning difficulties (PMLD). The only part of his body he has full control over is his eyes, which he uses to communicate. He shares his experience of education, faith and the need for us to create spaces for all children and young people to actively contribute
Margaret Pritchard Houston challenges us to make the most of our crèche spaces
The nine months before giving birth can be a great time of preparation. Children’s worker and mum of two Annie Willmot shares her thoughts…
As the summer holidays begin, former Blue Peter presenter and mum of two Helen Skelton talks about why it’s so important to take a break and how electronic devices can help.
In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus turns to his followers and says: “You are the light of the world” (Matthew 5:14). The first picture Jesus uses to illustrate this is “a city on a hill” which has come to represent the Church. As we gather together as this community of ‘called-out ones’, which is what Church literally means, we are to be this light. The second picture is a “lamp on a stand”, whose job is to “give light to everyone in the house”.
“I’m feeling so awake today!” said no teenager ever. We all know the signs of tiredness: bags under the eyes, pallid skin, frequent headaches, dry lips, sugar cravings. And that’s just when we look at ourselves in the mirror!
What does the phrase ‘family devotions’ conjure up for you? A family of four sitting around the kitchen table, one quietly reading the Bible and another leading the family in intercession for the nations?
Anne Phipps explains why she thinks we need to shake off the negative stereotypes of single parenting and embrace its positives as well as the difficult bits
Parenting can feel like something of a high-wire act, especially when it comes to discipline. Rachel Turner explores the balance between punishment, teaching our children consequences and giving them room to make mistakes
The idea of the British stiff upper lip has been traditionally synonymous with our Royal Family, but the past few months have turned things upside down.
Despite two decades of unparalleled investment in youth ministry, the figures show that the Church is still haemorrhaging young people. Krish Kandiah explains where we’ve been going wrong, and why youth work can’t be left to youth workers.
I got an urgent call from a teenage girl who had locked herself in the toilets at KFC. Life had got too much and an increasingly toxic relationship she was caught up in had taken a desperate turn for the worse. We hadn’t talked in over a year, but that day she called me to come and find her.
There's a new family on the block: gangs. CEO of XLP, Patrick Regan, outlines the state of gang activity in the UK, and explores how the Church can be the hope – and the family – these young people need.
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