The Royal College of Pediatrics and Child Health has renewed calls for smacking to be banned in England. Aaron Edwards opposes a ban
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What does society say about corporal punishment?
Discussing corporal punishment is not easy. Many British parents are wary of broaching the subject with one another. Discipline in general is an area in which parents need far more help within churches. Too often, leaders are reticent to teach about it openly, leaving parents to fend for themselves. As Dr James Dobson, author of the book, Dare to Discipline, said: “parents today are more confused than ever about effective and loving discipline. It has become a lost art, a forgotten skill.”
Some of the reticence to talk about it publicly within churches is the fear of being reported to Social Services. Several years ago, someone reported my wife and I simply because they found out we use moderate corporal punishment with our children, as though it was illegal. A number of uncomfortable conversations with the school headteacher and social worker followed which were distressing. The atmosphere of suspicion over corporal punishment can unsettle relational trust very easily.
Despite the fact that most parents of my generation likely received some form of corporal punishment growing up, the societal shift in parenting philosophy over recent decades means parents who still use it are now viewed as slightly strange creatures who wish to harm their children. Although in theory just over 50% of UK parents still believe in reasonable corporal punishment, that number is decreasing, and is increasingly rare among younger parents. Quite often when this debate comes up in the media, you’ll hear people talk as if they can’t quite fathom that it’s still legal in England today, as though the current law was a vestige of some ancient barbaric practice.
A recent BBC article reported: “Currently, smacking is unlawful in England, except in cases where it amounts to a ‘reasonable punishment’.” This is technically correct but rhetorically misleading, akin to saying: “Currently, locking someone up against their will for several years is unlawful in England, except in cases where the person is a convicted criminal.” The opening sentence of the same article is even more misleading, making the bizarre claim that there is “no evidence [that smacking] has any positive effect” on the wellbeing of children. Really? None at all? How many Christians did they ask?
One recent case that sparked fresh calls for a total ban was the tragedy of the 10-year-old girl Sara Sharif who was tortured and killed by her father and stepmother in 2024. Sharif’s father told police he had “legally punished” his daughter but had simply “beaten her up too much.” Even speaking in terms of “beating up” is already worlds apart from how any faithful Christian would ever think about corporal punishment. Progressive lobbyists speak as if horrific cases like this happen due to “vagueness” in the current law. But the law isn’t vague. What Sharif did was already illegal and morally despicable. The instinct to reform the law via extreme cases is often emotionally manipulative.
Efforts to undermine Biblical principles on corporal punishment go hand in hand with the anti-authoritarianism of the 1950s and 60s, as with Michael Croft’s 1954 novel, Spare the Rod (made into a film in 1961). Here, the protagonist—a progressive teacher—challenges excessive and sadistic corporal punishment in a school. The moral was that we should “spare the rod” for the good of the child, a precise inversion of the Biblical principle that to spare the rod is to “hate” your child (Prov. 13:24).
What does the Bible actually say?
Surprisingly, the well-known phrase, “spare the rod, spoil the child” is not actually a Biblical proverb. However, it does harmonise various proverbs which speak of parental discipline specifically mentioning “the rod” (Proverbs 13:24; 22:15; 23:13-14; 29:15). The tenor of these proverbs is not harm, but nurture: “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.” (23:13). Some people read such verses today and assume “the rod” must be symbolic of discipline in general, but it’s hard to imagine the writer is thinking of an ancient-world equivalent of the naughty step. Why couldn’t the rod be both literal and symbolic? To be for corporal punishment is not to recommend it for all situations, just that there are contexts where the Bible calls for it with a variety of good intentions: to drive folly from the heart of your child (22:15), to truly love them (13:24), to give them wisdom and save them and others from shame (29:15), and to ward them from a long-term pathway to hell (23:14).
We have found the reasonable use of corporal punishment so helpful for establishing the base line of authority and virtue in our family from an early age.
We see this same tenor in Hebrews 12 regarding God’s discipline, showing us we’re his beloved children, like our earthly fathers who “disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them” (Heb. 12:10). In the next verse we see an important detail: “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness” (12:10). This may jar with the shorter-term therapeutic mindset of much “gentle parenting” in our time, particularly regarding the constructive use of “pain.” But the Bible calls parents to look not to short-term pleasantries but to the long-term “peaceful fruit of righteousness.” This is also why any Christian parent practicing corporal punishment is also bound by wider biblical constraints, such as not doing it in anger, for “the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:20) and ensuring a holistic environment of loving and gracious encouragement, not exasperation (Colossians 3:21; Ephesians 6:4).
Paul speaks of the denial of bodily comfort and the acceptance of bodily pain for the higher goal of faithful godliness (1 Corinthians 9:27; 1Timothy 4:8). We must remain wary of any who might twist such verses to underwrite genuine abuses. But I believe the Bible is clear that parents who refuse to discipline their children “bodily” are denying them a key aspect of their nurture. The gradual diminishment of corporal punishment across the western world does not appear to have produced better fruit of good character but rather the opposite.
Short-term pain to avoid long term-harm
Contrary to exclusively negative depictions, loving corporal punishment can help children by causing temporary short-term pain to avoid more permanent long-term harm. We have found the reasonable use of corporal punishment so helpful for establishing the base line of authority and virtue in our family from an early age. On this foundation, other forms of discipline become more effective within the wider vision of honouring God by honouring father and mother. This is what Paul calls “the first commandment with a promise…that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land” (Ephesians 6:2-3). Corporal punishment works in tandem with this promise, showing children that it is precisely because God cares about our bodies that we should be taught as early as possible that our rebellion and/or our honour carry both spiritual and physical consequences.
